Lahat naman tayo ay gustong buo at masaya ang ating pamilya. Pero ano ba ang mga magagandang habits ng mga happy family. I like to use the word F A M I L Y for ease of understanding:

F for Fellowship.  Maganda sa mag-asawa lagi magkasama or merong fellowship. Kaya nga sabi ng Bible sa Mark 10:8 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh…”

F for Fun. Bakit nga ba umaalis ang mga tao sa bahay, gabi na uuwi, baka naman wala ng fun?

F for Forgiveness – A good relationship is not the absence of imperfection but the presence of forgiveness. Hindi naman porke’t hindi naghihiwalay ang mag-asawa e walang nagkakamali, pero dahil may isang nagpapatawad sa kapalpakan ng isa.

F for First – bago ang lahat Family First

Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens and pays attention to you, you have won back your brother.

A – Acceptance – dapat may unconditional acceptance sa bawat miembro ng pamilya.

2 Cor 5:18-19 –  But all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ [making us acceptable to Him] and gave us the ministry of reconciliation

kung paano tayo tinanggap ng Panginoon sa kabila ng ating kasamaan, tapos tinutulungan Niya tayong magbago at maging mabango ulet.

Luke 7:34 – ‘The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ Jesus was called a friend of the sinners.

tuturuan, aakayin

kung kakaiba man ang inyong mga anak dahil bakla sya?

Anak: Buntis po ako, tay!

Tatay: Ganun ba, matulog ka na.

Anak: Tay, di ka nagagalit na buntis ako. Hindi mo man lang itatanong kung sino ang nakabuntis sa aken.

Tatay: Maximo, tumigil ka na ha. Pinayagan na kita sa kabaklaan mo, kumakarengkeng ka na naman. Matulog ka na.

kung kakaiba man ang asawa ninyo dahil badoy sya?

Anong treatment natin sa mga anak natin na hindi achievers? Hindi lang tayo pumupuri sa mga honourable students, maiitim, at mga baluga…ikinakahiya.

What about those nabuntis or unwed mother? Iniwan na nga ng nobyo, tapos palalayasin pa ng magulang at palaging sisihin ang anak at ano daw ang sasabihin ng mga kapitbahay.

Joseph accepted his family despite his brother’s fault. He said what you meant for bad, but God made it for good!

Hindi ko na sinasabing konsentehen. Ngunit maganda na merong acceptance. A family is where life begins and love never ends. The love of a family is life’s greatest blessings.

Family is God’s gift to each person. It is not earned by choice. Family is our refuge from the storm; our link for the past and our bridge for the future. Kahit sino pa yan, basta kapamilya, welcome siya dapat. Dapat unconditional ang acceptance, nagkamali man, magpatawad na agad. Wag na hintayin mamatay tapos doon na lang magpapatawad din pala. Maraming taong ang nawala at lumipas. Hindi sila naging masaya.

May kilala ako na isang magsing irog. Lagi nag-aaway ngunit naaksidente ang lalake. Sinabi ng doktor na patay na ang lalaki. Nakiusap ang babae habang nakapikit ang lalake, patawarin mo ako mahal ko, mabuhay ka lang, di na kita aawayin.

Mga mag-asawa, natanggap nyo na ba ang mga asawa ninyo? O hanggang ngayon 20 years na kayo mag-asawa pinag-aawayan nyo pa rin ang mga small stuff? Kaya maraming hindi masaya.

Marriage is not a reformatory institution but a refuge to one another.

M for Mediation

James 5:16  Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Ephesians 4:3 Make every effort to keep the oneness of the Spirit in the bond of peace [each individual working together to make the whole successful].

dapat ang miyembro ng pamilya – peacemaker. Kung may mga members of the family na nag-aaway, you have to mediate and perform your diplomatic duties para magkabati sila.

I – Individuality – every person is unique. Kahit kambal sila. Every person has individuality. No two people are alike. Huwag mong expect na lahat ng tao maging kagaya mo.

I Cor 12:7 Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.

• may mga tao na palaging, i-compare sa iba
• there are also parents na kelangan impose ang gusto nila sa mga anak nila. Or minsan dahil nag fail sila sa course na yon. Kaya maraming bata sa Pinas ang hindi nag-grow dahil sa utos ng mga magulang. Parents do not allow a person to have his individuality

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.

I for Industry – Dapat lahat nag-tatrabaho. Kaya maraming OFWs naghihirap dahil maraming naka nganga. Ang dapat lang tinutulungan ay ang mga matatanda, may mga sakit or sobrang bata

Titus 3:14 Our people must learn to do good deeds to meet necessary demands [whatever the occasion may require], so that they will not be unproductive.

Maraming ayaw mag-ipon bahala na ang pamilya. Walang paghahanda. Mag-aasawa ng wala sa oras, mag-aanak ng madami at walang gagawin kundi pag-alagain ang mga magulang.

1 Thes 4:11-12 and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands,just as we told you,  so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.

Maraming mga OFWs ang ayaw ng umuwi dahil maraming kamag-anak na naghihintay ng pasalubong. Text, Messengers makes it easy to utang, libre …kaya maraming OFWs ayaw ng umuwi or kelangan mamili ng mga sale na kape, sa car boot sales na may mga anay.

Proverbs 10:4 Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth.

Ephesians 4:28 Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.

L for Love – no need to elaborate as we all know love must exist in the family. If you love people, God will forgive your sins.

1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

Y for Yahweh – Christ should be the center of the family. Jesus is the Head of our family. Dapat our family is rooted in the word of God.

God’s word

1 Tim 3:16-17  All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for conviction, for correction, and for training in righteousness, 17so that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work.…

Prov 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
⁶ in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.^[a]

God’s presence

Godliness

Ang mga bata inaagaw na agad ng mga gadgets, unahan na natin ng salita ng Diyos.

Kung may family disputes, ibatay lahat ang desisyon on the word of God.

In my family, yes we argue, we fight, sometimes we stop talking to each other, but in the end a family is a family, where love will always be there.