Madalas nating marinig ang salitang: “forgive and forget”. But forgiving should not be forgetting. Some people make a mistake that once forgiven, eh dapat forget na din as if parang walang nangyari. But trust must be worked out if the offender wants take the it back.
May isang lalaki na nagtanong sa isang bata na may katabing aso na nasa labas ng tindahan, “Ang cute naman ng puppy mo. Pwede ba mahawakan sya? Nangangagat ba ang aso mo? Tanong ng lalaki. Sumagot ang bata: “hindi po nangangagat ang aso ko.” Hinawakan ng lalaki ang aso at kinagat siya. Nabigla ang lalaki: “Akala ko ba hindi nangangagat ang aso mo?” Sumagot ang bata: “Hindi ko po aso yang hawak ninyo!”
Mahirap ibalik ang tiwala na minsan ay nasira. Ito daw ay parang isang plato, once na mabasag, lagyan mo man ng glue, ngunit makikita mo pa rin ang crack nito.
Trust is like a paper, once it is crumpled, it can never be perfect again. -anonymous
If you maintain that idea of “forgive and forget” principle, then your forgiveness will be taken for granted and will be abused dahil kahit paulet-ulet na lokohin, magtitiwala ka ulet sa kanya. According to Hope College Associate Professor, Dr. Charlotte Van Oyen Witvliet says, “Forgiveness does not involve a literal forgetting. Forgiveness involves remembering graciously.” You remember the lesson that experience gave you. You never forget the pain to be careful next time.
“Forgiveness does not mean the instant restoration of trust. Forgiveness is instant. Trust must be rebuilt over time. Forgiveness is based on grace. Trust is built on works. You earn trust.” – Pastor Rick Warren
But you need to forgive so you can move on. Just because you forgive, does not mean that what was wrongfully done is ok. But you forgive for your own sake. Do not let your past hurts keep hurting you because you keep holding on to grudges and hatred.
Forgetting what happened is not required when you forgive. But you need to forgive so you can move on with your life in peace without getting bitter and resentful. Kelangan mo ng kalayaan at kapayapaan dahil pinatawad mo na siya. Pero wag mong kalimutan ang aral na itinuro sa iyo ng isang karanasan. Let God heals your wounds. He can make all things beautiful. Makikita mo na blessings in disguise pala ang mga nangyari.
Romans 12:19 (NIV) which reads: “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”
Magpatawad ka na, para sa iyong kalusugan yan mentally and physically. God knows what happened. He expects you to forgive and He promise to bless you for doing so.