Napakaikli ng buhay para sayangin lamang sa mga taong walang gawain kundi pasakitan at pabigatin ang iyong buhay. You will know you are in a wrong crowd if you do not value yourself anymore as you used to be.You start hating yourself for making that wrong decision to be with that person. Most of the time you will always try to prove your worth because they do not see it or they do not care about you: blaming and hurting with one another never stops.  Tama ang sabi ng Proverbs 6:27 “Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned?”

Maraming tao hindi umuunlad because they carry heavy loads of toxic people in them. Maybe this year, it is time to let these people go out of your life, cut the ties and see what God can do for you without the wrong people. If you let go of the wrong people out of your life, the right people will show up.

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. -Proverbs 13:20

A wrong person always say: “what’s wrong with you?” while the right person always sees “what’s right in you?” When bad people leave your life, good things start to happen.

Birds of the same feather look alike. – Don Magsino

I remember listening to Pastor Mike Murdoch who said: “when wrong people leave your life, wrong things stop happening.” There is truth to it, right? The Bible is clear: “Do not be deceived. Bad company ruins good morals.” You must stop spending time with wrong people and do not be sad if they leave you, in fact, you must be joyful. Happy people are willing to walk away from an environment where they are not honoured. Even Jesus left Nazareth because He felt people did not like Him.

Then He added, “Truly I tell you, no prophet is accepted in his hometown. -Luke 4:24

Stop explaining yourself to others because it is a waste of time. – If people love you and trust you, they do not need your explanation but your enemies will not believe you anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

The problem with staying with the wrong people is they suck your energy, and they make you look bad because they believe they are good or better than you. Kaya minsan ang marami parang ubas sa simula ng relationship, but nag break na sila, parang pasas na sila! Because these wrong people generally stay when you are your best, but leave you at the time of your worst. Ang tawag dito ay mga friendly-user na magaling lang pag meron ka, but the moment na ikaw naman ang mangailangan, nasaan sila? Minsan yan ang mapapansin mo bakit maraming hindi umuunlad sa buhay, because many of us never learned to say “no.” We allow others to use us, abuse us and overuse us. Kaya minsan tayo din ang naiiwanan sa kangkungan. Stay away from wrong people because they create crazy things and you suffer as a result. Hindi na rin natin masisi ang iba na maging self-contained sa buhay nila kahit nag-iisa sila kase they feel better off on their own.

It is better to be single and alone than to be with a bad person who will overlook your worth. Do not be scared to ‘get out’ as it is not comparable to the pain of staying. I once mentioned in one of my talks na: “Do not marry someone you do not love, trust and respect. Life is too short to live in doubts and suspicions. Do not make your life shorter. Kung maghihiwalay din lang naman kayo, you might as well do it now kesa patatagalin nyo pa, yun din naman ang ending.” Isip-isip din pag may time.

And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the hell of fire. -Matthew 18:9

In the same context maybe we can say: “And if your friend causes you to sin, cut your relationship off them and walk away.” I once mentioned in one of my talks na: “Do not marry someone you do not love, trust and respect. Life is too short to live in doubts and suspicions. Do not make your life shorter.” Stop getting into a relationship for wrong reasons. Dapat totoo talaga ang hangarin at layunin mo.  Kase kung hindi kayo totoo sa isa’t-isa, magkakahiwalay kayo kase wala ang tunay na pag-ibig, tiwala at respeto. Choose wisely. May mga bagay na hindi dapat ipinagmamadali. If it’s meant to be, it will happen at the right time, with the right person and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

Choose the right people to be with.

Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do.- 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

How do you know you are in a right relationship?

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

When you have an open and kind communication. Hindi naman sinasabi na walang away at tampuhan, of course, yan ay bahagi ng isang relationship. But you will know you are in a good relationship when you can say anything without fear of being judged or criticized. Eto yong kaya mong sabihin kahit ano ng hindi ka natatakot na pag-aawayan ninyo. And even if worse comes to worst, both of you are willing to forgive and encourage, to be honest with one another.

An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. -Proverbs 31:10

How do you know you are with the right person?

When both of you know what makes the other feels loved and valued. Eto yung alam mo kung ano ang nagpapasaya sa inyo. There is a mutual desire to meet that expectation of happiness, even if it means you take extra miles.

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. -Proverbs 18:22

When there is a willingness to spend time together (and apart). Yung kahit anong busy ng schedule, you find time to enjoy quality time together kahit mga simple lang na hindi naman dapat na pasosyal. A simple walk in the park or by the seaside will do or a watching movie. There is also value in spending time apart. You miss each other. There was the famous phrase: “absence makes the heart grow fonder...” You value each other more when you are apart.

Kaya dapat a relationship or marriage should be for the right purpose and reason. Hindi dahil sa nadala lang buyo ng kaibigan or ‘trip’ lang. If the relationship breaks down, one will feel betrayed and lied to. Naglokohan lang kayo. Kaya dapat right person ang pipiliin.

When you stop chasing the wrong people in your life, you are giving the right people the opportunity to meet you. Dapat alam mo yung ‘worth’ mo so that when the other person does not appreciate your value, you can walk away. You deserved to be respected. You are the child of the Most High God.

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. -Psalm 139:14

Never stay with someone who is not willing to be with you in your future. Be honest with yourself that you will take that “road less traveled” because it leads you to your destiny at minsan talagang hindi mo na siya makakasama kase designed sya for a short haul only and not forever. Be bold to say that you are letting them go for the sake of peace and your sanity.

Go where you are celebrated… -Jeremy McCaslin

Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.