1. Wala ka ng gana sa mga tsismis at mga kathang isip ng mga makakating dila.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Proverbs 16:28
A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.

Proverbs 21:23
Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.

2. You forgive more.

Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ. (Ephesians 4:31-32)

If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done. (Matthew 6:14-15)

After Jesus resurrected, the first time He saw Peter who betrayed and denied Him, He called Peter and the rest of the disciples: “My children…Peter, do you love me?” There were no accusations of why did you betray me, Peter? Jesus showed us what a matured person is like.

For I will forgive their iniquities and remember their sins no more. – Hebrews 8:12

Ang mga tao na may malawak at matured na pag-iisip madaling makalimot sa mga mali hindi yong mapagtanim ng sama ng loob kahit sila din lang naman ang naapektuhan at nasasaktan.

Unforgiveness is like drinking a “muriatic acid” is waiting for another person to die.

Release yourself from anger and hatred. God said, “Let me fight for you…the battle is mine, but the victory is yours…” Alam ng Diyos ang nangyari. Alam ng Diyos kung sino ay may sala at nagkamali. When you forgive, it does not mean that you show weakness but it shows your strength to overlook beyond imperfections. Hayaan mong mawala at mabunot ang tinik sa iyong puso. Let the healing begins in your heart. Sooner you will feel better.

3. You become more open-minded.

Open-minded means you welcome new ideas. You’re willing to consider other options. That is the definition of being an open-minded.

The people here were more open-minded than those in Thessalonica, since they welcomed the message with eagerness and examined the Scriptures daily to see if these teachings were true. Acts 17:11

Other translation made ‘open-minded’ synonymous to ‘noble-minded’ or marangal at matayog na kaisipan. Ganyan ang naging charater ng mga taga Berea hindi kagaya ng mga taga Thesalonica. “Now the Bereans were more noble-minded than the Thessalonians…”

Pag ang tao makitid ang utak, hindi masyadong nakakalayo sa buhay. Hindi umuunlad dahil sarado ang isip sa mga bagong paraan, bagong teknolohiya, bagong idea. Look at what happened to Friendster v Facebook, ToysRus, Maplins v Amazon, Black Cabs v Uber, Hilton v Airbnb,

Be creative and innovative. Don’t just think about ideas but make those ideas into its full a reality.

4. You respect differences.

Bagamat maganda ang exchange of ideas at malaman din natin ang saloobin ng iba, pero a hostile argument with the intention to impose what we know and what we want usually lead to anger and revenge.

Agree to disgree. After all everybody is entitled to his or her own opinion. Ganoon ang paniniwala niya at iba ang paniniwala mo, hayaan mo na yan. As a matured person, you respect differences.

Jeremiah 13:23 “Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the leopard his spots?”

Life is not a court of law where you debate non-sense matters. Once you have conveyed what you want, it’s up to others to take or leave it.

If there are two people who are arguing about something agree to disagree, they decide to stop arguing because neither of them is going to change their opinion.

Kaya nga sinasabi ng Diyos na:

Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 NLT

Ganoon din sa pagpili ng asawa or partner sa buhay. Kase pag lagi kayong mag-aaway dahil burara sya, or hindi marunong maglinis, e di mag-asawa ka ng janitor or mag employ kayo ng maid para lagi malinis ang bahay. Kase kung lagi nyo pag-aawayan ang pagiging madumi nya, habang buhay na away yan. Ganoon din naman sya, hindi naman sya nagagalit sa yo dahil sobrang linis mo.

Respect each other’s differences.

“Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.”

5. You don’t force love.

Ang pagibig na hinog sa pilit, hindi matamis yan dahil mapakla. Nakuha mo lang sa pamimilit or pananakot.

Hindi mo pwedeng pwersahin ang iba na mahalin ka gaya ng pagmamahal mo sa kanila. What you can do is to recognise you’re worth and wait for someone who knows the definition of the principle of reciprocity.

You are treated by the way you treat others. Jesus said:

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Luke 6:31

Mahal mo ba ako or hindi? Kung wala ng pagmamahal or naubos na dahil sa dami ng nangyari paulet-ulet na lang, may it’s time to move on. But if love is there, do everything in your disposal to protect it.

6. You accept heartaches.

 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

That is the problem when you love someone, you get ready to get hurt. Kaya mahirap magmahal dahil at any given point masasaktan ka lang. Jesus had Peter and Judas. He healed so many people and even the Bible is clear na kulang ang buong daigdig kung isusulat ang lahat ng mga nagawa ni Hesus noong sya ay nasa lupa. But when the time came to choose between Barrabas and Jesus, people chose Barrabas instead.

But at Jesus final moment, when people are laughing at him, mocking at him in his undressed naked body, Jesus said: “Ama ko, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang mga ginagawa.”

That’s acceptance that despite of what good things you have done, alalahanin mo hindi lahat ng nagawan mo ng mabubuti ay mamamagaling ka. Minsan ikaw pa ang masama. Accept the heartaches as it is a sign of maturity.

Don’t be like eggs that when it feels the hot water, it starts to get hard. Don’t be like the carrots that it feels the hot boiling water, it gets mashed and soft. But be like a coffee, that it is poured into a hot boiling water, it starts to show off by its fragrance.

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Revelations 21:4

7. Your happiness does not depend on other people.

“Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10

Don’t depend on others as the source of your happiness. Happiness or joy is an inside job. Do not give others the power to make you happy. Because happiness is your choice.

“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God…”John 14:1